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Sex Life Suffering? Could be You’re Feeling Your Age!

Sex Life Suffering? Could be You’re Feeling Your Age!
June 06
11:06 2017

Ladies, and some of you guys out there, is your sex life suffering as you are getting older? Sometimes that’s purely physical possibly a change in hormones as you age, possibly due to medication or high blood pressure or other physical factors.

Whether we like to talk about our private lives or not, a person’s sex drive often plays an important role in their life and relationships. There has been a plethora of studies over the years that tout the benefits of intimate physical contact. It actually starts at birth as a newborn baby requires intimate contact with their mother and father. Moms that breast feed have a lot of intimate physical contact with their babies. It’s also very important for the father to hold and embrace their babies and children as they grow.

One of my favorite examples of the importance of physical contact is the ministry of Jesus as recorded in the Four Gospel accounts. Jesus touched people. He placed his hands on the sick and infirmed. He called the little children unto him and He touched them. Touching was important to His ministry and it’s important to the nurturing of kids from birth to adulthood.

But that’s not the same as intimate sexual physical contact. That plays an entirely different role in an adult’s life. It helps to bond a good marriage. Intimate caresses on occasion expresses care for your spouse. Many women complain that their husbands only want sex, they don’t hug, hold hands or rub shoulders and back as they get older, but those things are so important in helping to maintain a strong marriage.

Perhaps the reason that intimacy and sex drive is suffering as you get older may simply be due to you ‘feeling your age’.

How many times have you heard someone say they really feel their age? What about those people who say they still feel young and vibrant? Did you know that this mental state of mind can actually make a difference in whether or not you still have a good and satisfactory sex life?

A team of researchers at the University of Waterloo, in Ontario, completed a study in which they concluded that feeling your age could make your sex life suffer:

“The researchers studied the attitudes volunteers – from diverse sexual orientations – in their 40s and 70s had towards their sex lives over a decade. They were questioned about three measures of sexuality: how often they had sex, the quality of their sex lives and their general interest in sex. Overwhelmingly, the study found that the people who felt they had poor quality sex also felt the closest to their actual, chronological age.”

“‘It’s important to consider all of the different psychosocial and biological factors that might influence a person’s sexuality,’ said Amy Estill, a lead researcher of the study. ‘While feeling younger didn’t have an impact on how much sex people are having, it was quite clear that feeling older does impact the quality of the sex you’re having’.”

How often have you told your kids to have a positive attitude in what they do? Well, having a positive attitude about aging can have a direct impact on your sex life or quality of your sex life.

We all know older people who don’t act their age and you can be assured that their sex life is probably not suffering. We also know older people who act and look their age. Chances are, their sex life is suffering and they wish it were better.

If your sex life is suffering, ask yourself if you really feel your age? If the answer is yes, then try making changes in your life to help make you feel younger than you. Be more physically active. Be more social with others. Take a dance class or something that helps you be more active and more social. It may not take long before you no longer feel you age and you suddenly realize that your sex life isn’t as bad as it was.

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